Patience Will Help Get Ex Back
By Molly Laws
Maybe it was a long simmering argument or maybe a sudden
flash of anger. How ever it happened you and your partner
have split. And you are determined to get your ex back.
Because you feel so strongly about the rightness of your
relationship you may be tempted to immediately contact your
ex. You want to phone your ex at home or at work. You want
to show up in a place where you know he or she is likely to
be. You want to initiate contact and then force your ex to
listen to reason.
But the truth is if you do initiate contact at this early
stage you will do more harm than good. It may be very
difficult for you but you have to wait, you have to be
patient.
The Split Happened for a Reason
Remember, your break happened for a reason. Maybe for
several reasons. You may not be able to see what caused the
break up or if you know the cause maybe it just doesn't make
sense to you so you tend to want to dismiss it as
unimportant. But if you go blundering in now, soon after the
split, begging to be heard, demanding that your ex listen to
reason, your version of reason, you will only make matters
worse.
It may be hard for you to do but now is the time for
patience, you have to wait.
How long you have to wait before initiating contact is a
decision only you can make. The circumstances of the break
up will help you to judge.
If you and your ex were having problems for some time before
the break up, wait longer. If there was a lot of anger in
your relationship or at the time of the break up, wait
longer still.
Think about the kind of person your ex is and how long it
may take him or her to cool off and calm down. When you are
sure you know how long that period might be, double the
time.
Use Your Time for Self Improvement
This waiting period is not lost time. Use this time to look
at your own foibles and engage in some self-improvement.
Don't beat up on yourself but do look at the role you played
in the break up. You need to understand your own faults and
mistakes. When the time is right and you are talking to your
ex about reunion you have to be able to say that you are
aware of these problems and are really trying to make
corrections.
The best relationships are often the ones that nearly
failed. The patience, self-control and practical
self-improvement you practice now will pay off with a
renewed and better relationship with your ex in the future.
What can you do about
getting your ex boyfriend back? Molly Laws provides
tips and advice to help you get your ex back at
http://www.get-your-lover-back.com/
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